Updated: Dec 22, 2018
What we wish for when we are in a negative emotional state is to come out of it. Most of the time we are really praying for it, that’s how bad it can feel. However, the switch back to a positive outlook remains elusive, meaning we start to wish for it even more. Luckily, there is a way out of this cycle.
Paradoxically, the best thing to do is to simply embrace your negative feelings. Life sucks
sometimes. It is never easy. For no one. That’s why it’s ok to feel down. It is in fact very
natural to do so. Now this doesn’t mean we shouldn’t try to think positive of course! But
in a burnout state of mind, this can be tough. So my best advice is to stop fighting it.
The trick is embracing this paradox: feeling ok about feeling bad. To allow it and give
your self time and space to slowly start feeling better. What I have found works
well is to stop trying to ‘cure’ your burnout. You should definitely ‘treat’
your symptoms and causes! But try not to think of it as a cure. Because that means you
are telling yourself you need curing.
But you don’t need a cure; you are already a whole human being. What you really need is acceptance of your negative feelings and the belief that they are perfectly normal. That acceptance almost automatically triggers more positive thoughts. I draw heavily from my own experience as a writer and musician here. I am naturally prone to depression because I have a huge creative urge.
This means that periods of writer’s block or the ‘black hole’ after finishing an artwork
have been a part of my life. I have found that the more I accepted my negative emotions,
the quicker they went away. Up to a point where I even don’t experience depression and
writer’s block anymore, just periods of mild annoyance.
In other words, you can get used to that devil on your shoulder that keeps telling you’ve
failed or whatever the hell he thinks of you. Thoughts and emotions are very real. Yet
they are not fact. The angel on the other shoulder is also always talking and telling you
just that. So listening to them both will allow you to also hear the positive.
And take it easy. Love.